Don’t Share Good News
"I got a job," I said as I was met with continuous blank stares from my friend. The stares were a mix of shock and her hanging open mouth. Aside from the shock and disdain, her face was empty and emotionless. She maintained that position for a good twenty seconds. It became so awkward that I decided to break the ice and say, “I didn’t tell you.” Although I didn't feel any obligation to inform this uncouth person about anything. After I did that, she managed to collect herself and sealed her mouth. Not only did she not acknowledge the news that I had shared with her, but she proceeded to steer the conversation off the grid and spoke about something that was extremely unrelated. Was I shocked, no. She had displayed this kind of behavior multiple times. I was already on the verge of ending the friendship, but I held on a little longer than I should have. But after this incident, it solidified my decision to let her go.
This behavior was not new; our initial interaction was marred by her rudeness. At that time, I had chucked it up to a stressful situation and that was why she behaved in such a manner. I was deeply deceiving myself; it was just who she was, and for most of our friendship, I found myself either correcting her or making excuses. The contrast between how she treated others who gave her less compared to how she treated me was evident. The little humiliation attempts she would make out of jealousy. Or hearing someone call me pretty, which I am, and she would sit in the back just glaring. Or when we would share deep things and she would dismiss my issues, but I never did it to her. The extremely selfish demeanor she would take, which I would overlook under the guise of her being ‘less emotionally aware’. Or when she gave me dreadful advice on purpose, it almost felt like she wanted the worst outcome secretly. Or maybe she was just sharing what she knew, regardless it wasn’t advice I needed.
Throughout the years, I observed and gradually lost affection for this person. The only reason I held on for so long was due to the significant amount of time we had spent together, and because I genuinely cared about her. But by the time this particular situation had happened, I had already detached emotionally from her. The best decision I have ever made, wish I left sooner. It's safe to say you shouldn't share information with so-called friends that you know secretly don't like you or are jealous of you. She turned a happy moment into a lesson for me. I'll give you the signs of a person like this: they don't defend you but you see them easily defend others, they are clearly jealous of you, you helped them a lot and they acknowledge it, but turn around and mistreat you, they humiliate you in public, they often don't respect your time, they are big hypocrites, they're rude and ill-mannered, and finally, you find yourself having to be the bigger person a lot!
It's no fun investing in someone like this. Eventually, you'll just stop caring about them. I mean how many more ways can someone show you that they don't like you? Even when it’s covered up by some good deeds. Dismiss these people, which is what I did. Blocked, you are responsible for your own actions figure out what you did. Especially because we had already had episodes full of fake apologies and thank yous before. The best part is that they know and are aware of their actions. They were just hoping that you wouldn't know or care enough to leave. Certainly, don't share good news with people you know who pretend to care about you. They’ll ruin everything.