Do Not Help A “Friend” Move

I had a friend I was excited to help move into an apartment. She had just gotten back into the country, and I picked her up from the airport. We hugged, screamed, and chatted about everything. Side note, I was going through a lot, and she knew this. So for the most part I wanted to interact with her but then be able to go home and be by myself. When I took her to her hotel, there was an issue with her payment. So I foolishly put my card in for her. Because she would pay me back, we are friends, right? I spent time with her in her hotel room and she asked me if I'm going to sleep over. I said no, but she pressured me so I agreed. The next day we go looking at apartments, mind you this is last minute and most of the apartments that she would want were already taken.

We find an apartment that she likes, and she signs the lease, but somehow there happened to be a mix-up and it wasn’t the apartment she agreed to. She then decides she doesn't like the apartment. Once again, we are driving around trying to find another alternative for her. She's all over the place but its understandable moving is a lot. It even came to a point where she asked me for my Social Security Number, so she could get an apartment and I said no.

More things happened and at this point, we're both over it. We go out to eat and I see that she muted my number on iMessage. When I voiced it out, all she could do was express shock on her face, like she wasn’t the one who did it. If she would have said, “yes I muted you because I did not want to hear any of the messages, or I was going through something”, I would have been fine. She tried to play it off like it was nothing. Most importantly I never blow up her phone, I would call and wait for her.

 After eating I became heated. Because when I would go pick her up from the hotel I would be waiting. And it made me wonder if I was muted this whole time. So now I am having all these thoughts like, “I'm taking time out of my day to pick you up from your hotel and you're not even in the lobby.” “I call you and you take forever to answer.” Her excuse was that she was having a mental breakdown. This is understandable but I'm going through my own issues and I'm able to make time to help you and communicate.

But I'm here muted, the person helping you and spending all their free time so you can be housed. Just say you are mad I didn’t let you use my social security number.  After helping this girl move twice from different apartments, I decided I wanted nothing to do with her. When I took her off my social media, she immediately tried to say I was cutting her off because she hadn't paid me back the money. I literally didn’t care about the money at that point, I just wanted peace. I wanted a good friend. She did eventually pay me back. I will never help anyone move, it was so stressful.

 Pearl