Little Hints Of Jealously
I can literally write a book about the amount of jealousy and unnecessary hate I have received from so-called friends over the years. We're going to call this particular person Z. There is more I can say about this character because she presents herself as nice and helpful, but I easily saw through the charades. I picked two crimes she committed that let me know she was jealous & hateful, underneath her fabricated nice persona. The first event was regarding my hair. This person used to help me do my hair in college, she had made a remark about what type of hair I had. My hair has a range of textures in it. Anywhere from 3A -4A. The back of my hair is darn near straight to be honest; I am not one to care for hair typing but she stated it with disdain in her voice, so it become heightened to me. As she put her bitter hands in my hair, she proceeded to tell me how my hair was type 4 hair. There is nothing wrong with type four hair but that was not my hair texture. Ignored it.
The second encounter was with my brother, I had my brother's hoodie with me while waiting in a chick-fil-a line with him. Z had come up to us, then out of nowhere she mindlessly said, “you’re supposed to be getting hoodies from boyfriends, not your brother”. I ignored it because if I didn’t, I would have laughed in her face. Not only did I get hoodies from boys, but I also have a brother who cares about me enough to give me his hoodies too. Clearly, she did not receive this type of love.
It was bizarre to me that she would even insinuate something like that because she did not receive more male attention than me. All the superficial topics she kept bringing up pertaining to me did not matter to me. It screamed insecure, my problem was I used to have pity on simpletons like this. I ended up removing this person from my life with ease. If anything, I helped her during our short exchange and received mediocre hair in return. I would constantly give her free meals, which was a big mistake because her rapacity led her to steal from me. This is a nice girl; we are talking about. The truth is that she wasn't “nice”, she had to play that role. She is one of those people that rations her anger towards people that actually help her because she does not receive love from those she chases. We've all met those kinds of people.
Focus on little hints of jealousy and insecurities people shamelessly display, because that's what really represents the person you're interacting with. I don't deal with issues like this anymore. I believe people need to learn to let people like this go. What a waste of my generosity and time.
Mary