Smear Campaign & More
When I was in high school, I had a vexatious experience and my name was smeared. I didn't know how bad the smearing was until college. I was kind to this person, and he did not deserve it at all. This person would make monkey noises in the hallway and humiliate themselves by telling stupid jokes. Three reasons why I think my name was smeared. One because I was honest with this person and told him to stop embarrassing himself. Two, because I told him people were laughing at him, not with him. Three, he probably thought I would tell his secret. He was raped by a man, he told me this in front of my brother Patrick. This made him vindictive against me I guess. I didn’t disclose said secret, it was out of my character, but it plays a big part in this story and I do not care to hold his secret after what he did.
When my name was being smeared, I did not react. I let it go because this person was extremely insecure and after spending time with him I knew this all too well. I didn't address the rumors because I did not know what was being said, apart from I was apparently “thirsty” for this person. Thankfully my brother knew it was a lie, I pitied this person. He was extremely pitiful, and that was why I would defend him when people made fun of him. I could have gotten this person in a lot of trouble for the turbulence he caused me, but I decided to be “mature”. He should have been disciplined since he clearly wasn’t taught at home. I had teachers call me in to talk to me about making sure he got consequences, but his sad story held me back. I now see I made the wrong choice, he and everybody who had spread such heinous rumors about me should have faced consequences the authorities at school were willing to give, and they were not small consequences.
This person was relentless in testing my kind nature, Dare proceeded to antagonize me during his last prom. He sent someone to give me a message “I love you” if this doesn't spell sociopath and pitiful then I don't know what will. I still kept my cool and let go of the situation because of his disturbing story. If I were mentally where I was today, I would have never forgiven it. I was basically being harassed and I played it off well. He was really unimportant and I never spoke to him, even though he tried so hard to get my attention. I definitely was too relaxed for my own good. Even in college, this person was still trying to watch my snap stories, I did not know I still had him on snapchat. I had changed my settings to everyone could view my snap stories and there he was after all these years. He never took me off, pathetic sociopath!
When I knew these rumors were circulating, I didn’t necessarily know what was being said. None of my so-called “friends” then told me how disturbing his words were. What fine people, they enjoyed hearing these lies. Fast forward to a year and a half ago or so, a then friend Chris told me what was said and my entire view on the situation changed. I am not going to repeat the words. This was not just little gossip, it was vile. The anger I feel is unmatched. Typical fragile insecure little boy behavior. I generally was trying to help this person, the whole time we interacted, and this is how I am repaid. We're in a country with a certain culture, I am young, and you painted a picture of me that was degrading and far from what I am.
Telling sexually charged lies because he is insecure and sick in the head. Desperate to come up with stories and projected them onto me because he probably thought I would spread the truth about him and how insignificant he was. I noticed a lot but I had no intention of inflicting trauma on someone already traumatized. I will be returning the negative energy back to its owner. I do not protect anyone who harms me in any way, I do not have empathy for him today.
I really struggled with the heavy trauma he dumped on me, and processing it was too much for me at that age. He should have kept it to himself. I truly believe he told him what happened to him, knowing I would go easy on him. He probably did it, just so he could spread rumors and get no retaliation. He knew I felt bad for him, I do not anymore. That is what saved him, truly a disturbing experience especially now that I have details about what he said. What a disgusting pathetic person.
Mary