I Chose The Wrong Guy
A few years ago, I had a choice between two guys, and I chose the wrong guy. I chose the wrong guy because I saw this person more. Back then I assumed because he was available to me, it was a sign that he was the one to be picked. The boy I chose did not put in more effort than his competition. He did love-bomb me a lot, I guess that also clouded my judgment if I'm going to be honest. I’ll focus more on talking about the choice I didn't make. Physically he was perfect, he was 6’3 & well-groomed. Plus, he was financially stable from what I could see. He seemed very genuine in his approach to me and was extremely polite. Not to mention I actually liked his crew and his friends. They were the exact opposite of the people associated with the boy I ended up picking. When we spoke, we would have very engaging conversations and he seemed more suited for me. He was well-traveled like I was, he had interests that were similar to mine, and he was in school to be an engineer. Overall, he was very attractive. He asked me out on dates, but I was always occupied with something. Plus, he lived at a distance, so the timing never worked out. I should have made time for him; the other boy never asked me out on a date and was definitely broke. He had no sense of romance toward me. He did not like me and I see that now, whereas the person I didn’t make time for did. The man I didn’t choose liked me so much, he was patient with my rejection and blatantly ignored the fact that I was ignoring him. I just didn’t want to deal with anyone who didn’t live in close proximity to me.
Eventually, he backed off when he saw I had no interest. Which was not the truth on my end. When I choose the wrong person, I did not choose him because I liked him better. It was out of proximity and availability; I regret it wholeheartedly. If I could go back to my 18-year-old self, I would shake her. Sometimes I see the guy I didn't choose when he posts on his snap, he looks like he's having a great time. I am happy for him; I don't necessarily want to have another chance with him, but I learned a really big lesson. Be more patient when choosing men and pay attention to detail when evaluating your romantic partners. A man's availability to you should not be the reason you pick him. Sometimes it just means he has nothing else to do. I honestly think if I had given him more time when I did see him, we would have seen each other more often because it would have become the norm. From how he presented himself to me, he was a great guy and I sincerely wish him the best.
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