“I Didn’t Ask You To”

Get people who reciprocate the same energy as you. Stay away from people who vomit words like “I didn't ask you to do that” after you help them. Not only does it show that person is ungracious, but it also shows that they do not appreciate you as a person. You probably don’t want anything back in return. For someone to utter those words out to you after you have done them a tremendous or insignificant favor, gives the ultimate ick. I did so much for this one girl once and she repeatedly said those words to me. Each time she did, I cared about her less. When people do this, you must realize they are beyond childish. Typically, the people who say things like this are the ones who need the most help. They are always needy and lacking, yet ungrateful. It's best for them to experience life without your helping hand. Help yourself and let them lack for eternity. Remember, it's just like they said, “they did not ask you to.” So, don’t!

Here's what happens when you keep allowing this kind of behavior around you. One day you'll wake up and you'll just stop caring. It’s crazy to keep putting into someone that does not put into you. They are not your child. It does not feel good and could possibly lead you to stop helping people entirely. Leave those kind people where you met them, don't help them. I have realized that people who vocalize words like that, use it to deflect because they know there is no way they could possibly give you, what you give them. Remember, If they didn't ask for your help then don't help!

Mary