Your Partner's Friends
Your partner's friends should be a great reflection of him/her. Meaning they should be kind to you, when they are not kind to you it signifies, he/she speaks poorly of you. Even if this is not the case, you should not want to be with someone whose friends are rude and lack manners. When I was younger, I didn't really pay attention to this, because I wanted to judge everyone individually. Now I do judge and whomever your friends are is who you are. I will quickly annul any relationship I have once I find out you surround yourself with losers. Manners, morals, and principles all matter to me. My first and last experience went like this.
I was interacting with someone that I wasn't too serious about. It was in college. He came over with his friend, but previously before that, his friend had made a comment about my body. I am shaped beautifully; people pay to have my body type. But he proceeded to talk about my derriere and commented on how it was big. Mind you this person was talking to my friend, and he told her this information. Why he thought it was appropriate to talk about me to my friend was crazy to me. Let me paint the picture of this idiot for you. The day he came, he was wearing clothes that were ill-fitted and looked homeless. It was so bad that my friend was embarrassed, so it seemed I had gotten the better idiot. They both honestly didn’t seem to come from good backgrounds like us.
That should have been a red flag, but like I said I was trying not to judge, but I should have. I easily could have, there were many things to judge. Most of all he was just rude and had no manners. He had acted extremely pathetic a couple of times. Like when he heard my friend talking shit about him when he came to stay with us, he stayed for a week like the bum he is. She found him sitting outside the door on the floor, I'm pretty sure he heard everything she said, but he still stayed. He must have needed a place to stay. I'm writing this laughing. So, in hindsight, I had no business hanging out with someone like this. But I was young and so was my friend, we were just exploring with horrible vision.
I let go of it because I am mature but If I thought the way I do today, he would have cried. I would have repaid him with the same energy. I really could have had him get kicked out of the building that day. I remember telling the has-been I was “talking” to about it. I told him how rude his friend was and he said “I could have told you that!” Disgusting reply, right? Anyways it was a great lesson for me. Whom you hang out with matters to me, I no longer separate the two. Pay attention to who they surround themselves with, that is who they are.
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