The Jada Archetype
Since Jada Pinkett has been in the news a lot, I would like to touch on an archetype that reminds me of her. Jada gives off that spiritual, cool, calm, deep-thinking, deep-understanding vibe, and she could be all those things very well. But I have met these kinds of people before. Typically, they're always spiritual, and when they're not spiritual, they're always in their emotions and are seen as the person who wants to pull out everyone's deeper thoughts without any boundaries, even in the most uncomfortable situations. They seek emotions in people that are not there; they almost want to put the emotions in you just so they can fake save you. I am not judging deep people; I am a deep person myself, but I know when to call BS. I can see when somebody likes talking about emotions, especially other people's emotions, to make themselves feel better and to keep stories in their archives for whatever motives they have.
Also, there is no need to always want to pull out deeper thoughts and make people think about things in a certain way; you are not a therapist. Or trying to place meaning to things that don't have any significance to sound like you are smart or spiritual. We all have deep conversations and heart-to-heart conversations with our close ones, sometimes even with strangers. But those things are kept private. There's a way to approach trauma; there's a way to approach feelings, especially when they are not yours. People like this are on some big BS. It has nothing to do with being spiritual and deep or even understanding. In my experience, it is just a big cover-up for deep insecurities and extreme nosiness.
Low key, these people, to me, are covert narcissists. I am not saying that Jada is one, but I am saying this archetype is as close to one as it gets. They're the type to say they're in tune with their emotions and talk really slow, and if you are not wise enough, you will fall for this. They ‘seem’ kind and give, whether money or love. Yet, those closest to them are not happy and are clearly being mistreated. And the fruit they bear is always rotten. Everything around them deteriorates. But because they have spent their lives building up an image of some type of guru and saver, people miss their lies all the time. Even when people catch on, they have already come into agreement with the person’s false persona and believe it’s true, they often pity the person and do not see them as an aggressor. Yes, I know people develop trauma from their childhood and other unfortunate circumstances in life, but it’s still not an excuse. Sorry, not sorry. This archetype is created to control others. That’s why they talk slowly and repeat a lot of their words; it's manipulation.
It's a false sense of authority they give themselves and people allow them to have, they authorize themselves to dig their fingers deep into a person’s soul. Then they try to ‘find’ out who that person is and ‘fix’ them. When they don’t even know who they are. They give people a false sense of protection, and it's always regarding a person's emotions because they wanted that kind of care when they were younger. But they don’t do it for good reasons; things will always go sour once you figure them out or they are bored with digging into your mind. People almost worship these people, which is what they want high-key. If it’s not emotional, it’s financial worship. They are draining you to fill themselves, your praises or concern for them is like their food. They are empty, not you. That’s why they keep looking for depth in everything. And yes, a lot of things have depth but not in a la la la land type of way.
That's why a lot of these people can be deep in drugs or deep in some false sense of spirituality to find something that does not exist. I do not think anything can fill their empty souls. The people who stick around them are trauma-bonded to them. They are living in La La land and if you don't move away from them you will too. Before you figure out what is really happening, your life will have been destroyed and you will become the person seeking something that is not obtainable. Your peace they stole. These people do not like reality, so they create the narrative they want and everybody has to play their part. If you don't, you become the enemy. You become the aggressor because your reactive reaction will be seen publicly and be much louder than their sweet, silent, planned-out actions behind the scenes.
They always seem to be in control, but where are the results of this control? If you haven't encountered someone like this, it might seem like I'm being harsh, but I promise you I am not. These people are often in leadership positions because a lot of people fall for the false sense of peace, fruit-smelling, head-shaving persona. An image that is out of this world and others want to obtain or be close to. People don’t truly know what peace even looks like, if most people experienced real peace, they would call it boring. None of those attributes make you an actual peaceful, loving person. It just proves that people love the image of things and not the actual thing. You could look plain and have no aesthetic and be exactly what this archetype claims to be.
People like this are deeply wounded and want to wound other people secretly. They'll lure you in with an intense abnormal amount of love in the beginning, almost like ecstasy. And you will really believe they care about you, but anyone who does not care about themselves can't possibly care about another person. Look around people like this, what is working in their lives? What spirituality are they practicing and what has it gotten them in life? I am not knocking being spiritual because I am Christian and understand spiritual viewpoints; I'm just saying there's a false self-seeking practice I see this archetype do. Seeking nothing and claiming to find something; there is nothing within yourself without Christ. You can never pinpoint what they're actually seeking, just spirituality and vibes. There's no sense of direction in what they're actually doing, and it can be very comical if you understand what is going on. Only people who are deeply wounded will connect with these people because this archetype can play the saver role for the wounded person and they will fall for the false sense of love and understanding.
They will claim to accept you but use who you are against you later. I have experienced people like this when I hadn’t healed from certain things. The bottom line is, don’t be deceived by appearances or how someone portrays themselves. Being too charismatic or wanting to 'deepify' situations without taking accountability is not wise or genuine. There's no way everyone who comes across you is damaged or leaves more damaged than they came. This is just something I wanted to put out there because a lot of young people will fall for this. They don't have enough life experience to clock it. From a Godly standpoint, this kind of confusion is not recommended. Don’t try to understand a person like this, just pray for them and leave.
Pearl