She Ruined My Birthday
Let me tell you the infamous story about how my so-called best friend ruined my birthday. This was supposed to be my 22nd or 23rd birthday I believe, she and I had been planning this birthday for well over a year. I had been speaking to her about it because I was thrilled to go to Vegas as an adult, I had gone before but I was underage. I had planned for us to go to Vegas and I made sure my coins were intact. I wanted it to be a very memorable trip for both of us and all the other friends I was going to invite. This girl was so encouraging, she encouraged me throughout the whole process. She helped me pick the hotel; we spent hours picking the rooms. She helped speak life into this plan and gave an illusion that she was truly ready to celebrate me.
This friend didn’t live in the same state as me, so I did not see her much. She had ruined a birthday of mine previously, so I shouldn’t have been shocked. But she did so in a subtle way, and I ended up not calling her out on it. Now, on this particular birthday, her evil horns were out. The saddest part was I didn’t see it until it was too late. As the days approached my birthday, I remember calling her for confirmation, to make sure we were going and to check if she was ready to go. It was all “yes yes”, “Oh my Gosh book the hotel, we have to go, it's going to be so amazing.” I even called her three days or so before I booked the hotel just to confirm once more because my intuition was telling me something was off. She was reluctant to answer my text, she seemed a bit distant, and she was less engaged on the topic of my birthday.
“Book it”! She confirmed to me with confidence, so I went ahead and booked the trip. I was elated that my friend was coming along, and we were going to be having the best time of our lives. A day or so before the trip was to commence she backed out of the trip. I was so shocked because just a few days ago I had confirmed with her, she said she was coming. Was it money? I could pay for her. Was she sick? I would understand. Even if she just didn’t want to come, I would have been understanding. She could have communicated her wants without pretending for months. She just backed out with no explanation. She had no integrity, she sat there planning a trip with me and had no intentions of showing up. What a loathsome person.
The egregious part about this unnecessary experience, was when I spoke out about her actions and told her how she had made me feel, she had an outburst like she hadn't done anything wrong. She acted out like she wasn't the one deceiving me this whole time. She had done this before, the last birthday I spent with her in person was ruined too. We were at a restaurant for my birthday, right before midnight when I was supposed to be celebrated and sang for, she went to the bathroom. She came out approximately 15 to 30 minutes later and didn't say anything. No happy birthday or cheers. I sat here thinking, “the only reason we are here is for my birthday. Or did you bring me here so you could eat?” This girl was never my friend, I excused a lot of things from her.
Matter of fact I stopped visiting her because I felt like we were drifting apart, and I personally didn’t see an issue with it. That is how life goes and I was fine with the distance. I felt the jealous moments, I felt how she spoke to me, and quite frankly I didn't see her as a good friend anymore. Lesson learned. Don't plan anything around another human being. This was the last straw for me. Not to mention she kicked me off her Netflix afterward. But I didn’t care, I had other accounts. Plus, my own personal account. Luckily for me, this was around when COVID started and I got all my money back from all the reservations. Make sure when it comes to your birthday it is centered around you.
Mary