My Narcissists Failed
The topic of narcissism is so big right now, I am super glad about it. Because it must be known what these people do on this planet. It is hard for someone who hasn't experienced a narcissist to truly understand the damage that they inflict on people. I will never discuss narcissism with someone who has not faced a narcissist before. I have faced all types of narcissism in my family, my friends, and in love. Overt narcissism, covert narcissism, communal narcissism, and malignant narcissism, you name it. I am literally double-stamped for narcissistic experiences. Somehow, I've survived everything! My narcissists failed. It feels so good writing those words, they really all did fail. None have broken me, I have been bent but never broke. The job of a narcissist is to really deplete you and make you feel like you are nothing. But I have never felt like I was nothing even when I was codependent. Somehow my coping mechanisms protected me. I'm very quick to cut people off and although I had a codependent issue in the past, I was also avoidant. Being an avoidant attachment style saved me! I recently just learned all these terminologies; I had no idea what these words meant before and how they related to me. Watching Dr. Ramani has really put things into perspective for me. I have been learning what to do to defeat narcissists and the simple answer is not to engage. I now see I have been doing that since I was young, although not in the healthiest way because I was avoidant, and it was just a coping mechanism. But as an adult, I disengage from them, from a healthy perspective. Looking at narcissists just disgusts me, and it is very easy to want to detach from them. I stick to truths, and I see them for what they are useless.
I was deflecting these assholes without training. You truly must believe in yourself and stick to the truth. Instead of regressing backward and falling into the world of lies, they create around you. Stick to the truth when it comes to their actions, or you will lose. You might even gaslight yourself. You must trust your eyes, ears, and mind. I wrote things down and I never let myself be gaslighted. Imagine failing at being a narcissist, the lowest thing you could be in this world! I left all my narcissistic relationships; I was never discarded. I'm so excited about it. Those of us who know what it is to really be raised by a narcissist, be romantically involved with a narcissist, and be friends with a narcissist know it is not for the weak. I'm just glad I was able to remove myself from those situations organically, literally because I was fed up. All my narcissists failed to destroy me HAHA.
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