Confidant
Have you ever confided in someone about how another person is treating you? Well, I have and it blew up in my face. I had to sit there and eat it up like it didn't bother me. I confided in a friend about how another friend was treating me. Maybe it was my fault for entrusting this kind of information to someone with her mentality. She wasn't strong-willed, she was extremely insecure, and maybe I wasn't someone she cared about enough to protect. Well, I confided in her about being mistreated by a certain friend and how I kept running into issues with this person. She would listen to me with blank stares like she often did and sometimes engaged with me like she was concerned. The point of this is, this person knew how I felt about this other person’s actions. They knew how this person made me feel, and they knew how I had been battling whether or not to continue the friendship. I invited my confidant over to visit me and she shocked me to the core.
When my confidant came, I was relieved. Finally, somebody who understands me and would see what I had been saying. But no, I was wrong. The minute she came, she began to suck up to the very person I had told her hurt me. She behaved like a mesmerized puppet. She went on to show the bottomless pit of her insecurities, it was to the point that I felt embarrassed of her and for her. She basically drooled over this person and had non-stop compliments for them. It was ludacris, she had never met this person before and only knew this person through me.
It was absurd to watch because I knew this person did not care about her and the praises were not mutual. Not once did the person she lowered herself for compliment her back, she didn’t even notice. It was so traumatizing because all I wanted was for someone to be on my side and speak the truth. Typically, friends naturally side with each other. Especially, when you are right! In my face, she threw away our friendship to suck up to someone else. I had to forgive her to continue our friendship. Clearly, I haven’t since I am writing this. It was a nightmare. She was counterfeit. All our facetime calls meant nothing; she gave me knockoff sympathy. She couldn't put herself in my shoes and comprehend my situation. While I had done it for her a million times. The whole time the situation played out, all could say to myself was “you gotta be kidding me”.
Mary